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Your Future Self Would Not Be This Complacent!

You’ve been doing the work, taking the action, and showing up—and somehow the reality you want still feels out of reach. This is about finding out what your next-level self is doing differently and becoming her.

Bansi Patel
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Bansi Patel
Published
September 26, 2026
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09 · September 25 – October 8, 2026
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6 min
Your Future Self Would Not Be This Complacent!
Submitted by Bansi Patel · Build With Her Magazine

Hey love, today I'm going to give you a little tough love.
Here’s why you’re not THERE yet!

You’ve done the hard slogging. You’ve done the soul-searching. You’ve taken the action. You’re showing up, maybe even every damn day. You’ve worked on your mindset, your business, your beliefs, your habits. And yet, your current reality still doesn’t look anything like the reality you know you’re capable of creating.

Which is super frustrating because somewhere inside you, you already know she exists, the version of you who has the life or business you’re asking for.

The moment you decided you wanted THAT desire, your 5D version went there. She created it. She became her. But here you are, still looking at your current circumstances and wondering, “What the hell am I missing?”

And here's the uncomfortable possibility: maybe what you're doing is simply not ENOUGH for the life you want. Not because you're lazy or because you haven't worked hard. But because what is enough for an ordinary life may not be enough for the extraordinary one you keep saying you want.

Because let's be honest about what you're actually asking for. You don't want the safe little version. You want the big life, big business, the money, the freedom, the impact, the experiences, the life that makes you feel super alive. You have dreams so big that if you told the wrong person, they'd probably look at you like you're kidding. Except you're not.

So the question isn't, “Am I doing enough?” The question is, “Am I doing what the woman who has already created this life would be doing?”

And THAT is probably where you're stuck. You know there's something else you need to do, but you don't know what it is. So instead, you keep consuming. Another podcast. Another course. Another strategy. Another journal prompt. Another sign from the universe.

Love, stop asking everyone else. Go ask her. Sit down and imagine the version of you who has already created the exact thing you're currently desiring.

Then ask her: “What did you do to get here? What did you have to become?What did you stop tolerating? What are you asking me to do now?”

And don't be surprised if the answers aren't what you expected.

My 5D version of me is currently looking at me like, “Girl. what the heck are you doing?” She's slightly boggled by how complacently I've been playing the game when I keep saying I want my dream life.

She's telling me to do the daily reps. To take the uncomfortable action I've already been thinking about. Basically, she's asking me to stop thinking about becoming her and just start behaving like her.

And then, because apparently she's also a little ridiculous, she's telling me to dress like a diva, get my nails done, share more of myself, order new socks and actually enjoy my life.

Which sounds completely unrelated to building the business I want, until you realise that becoming her isn't just about your business strategy. It's about how you move through your entire life.

The way you dress. The way you speak. What you tolerate. How you take care of yourself. How visible you're willing to be. The little things are often evidence of the identity you're stepping into.

So go ask her. “What does the version of me who has already created 'X' want me to do, be, stop doing or start doing right now?”

Journal it. Voice-note it. Go for a walk and talk to her in your head. Don't judge the answers. Don't immediately decide they're stupid or impractical.

Decode them. Maybe she wants you to make the offer. Maybe she wants you to raise your standards. Maybe she wants you to stop hiding. Maybe she wants you to rest. Maybe she wants you to get those nails done. Whatever it is, listen.

Because your next level probably isn't another piece of information you need to collect. It's something you need to embody.

More courage. More visibility. More reps. More self-trust. More willingness to do the things your current self keeps talking herself out of.

Your 5D self isn't sitting somewhere waiting for you to magically arrive. She's already living the life. She's waiting for you to catch up.

So ask her what it takes. Then stop playing around and go do it.
BE HER. From this moment on.

Bansi Patel
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Bansi Patel
Online Business Coach · Build With Her Magazine

Online Business Coach for female entrepreneurs, 3X self-published author, and host of the award-winning The Bansi Patel Show, as well as a writer helping ambitious women become the IT Girl in business.

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